Life before Crossroads was fairly isolated for me as a carer. I recognised something was happening with my mother long before her official diagnosis of vascular dementia. Mum obviously was getting distressed about her shortfalls and I could only soldier on doing my best.
The carers allocated for her personal care have very limited time to spend with her.
Mum is highly dependent on me for a multitude of reasons and can phone frequently. I visit most days and on occasion more than once. I am reluctant to go on holiday breaks.
About a year ago mum was allocated a social worker and it was this person who suggested the involvement of Crossroads Fife Central as mum refuses to be involved in any communal facilities. At the time I was sceptical however mum agreed to give it a try. A weekly visit of two hour sessions was agreed and I am delighted to say that they are highly successful, not least of all due to the wonderful work of Marilyn. She has built up a very special relationship with my mother and I know mum looks forward to the time she spends with her.
I personally feel relief knowing mum is having such quality time and also knowing Marilyn handles situations with great sensitivity.
Not only does Marilyn support my mother so admirably she is also caring towards me.
It is a comfort for me to know there is someone I can talk to if the need arises.
I feel extremely fortunate to have the services and friendship of Crossroads and am positive that my mother would say the same were she able to do so.
My biggest regret is that Crossroads support wasn't in place sooner.
Marjorie Hamilton - May 2017